I find it very necessary to take a couple of days off writing, even if I’m in the middle of an important part of my book or article. A lot of people say they write for 10 or more hours a day, but I hope they mean they incorporate thinking about their piece as much as sitting at the computer that long. I am thinking about my work constantly, but actually sitting at the computer is early morning and sometimes late afternoon. The rest of the time I’m in the gym, with friends, going to museums, art galleries, acting workshops, reading plays and listening to others’ work to expand what I write about.

The greatest way to get your name out there is to have a subject that appeals to “everyone.” Well, duh, that isn’t so easy, but what is easy is determining that many people need or want a therapist. But how to get the right therapist is the question. I dedicate this post to helping you, the consumer figure that out, then pass it on. You want someone who is well recommended, who you have already met at another venue, or who works with either talk therapy or cognitive behavioral therapy depending on the problem you present. If you have an addiction such as alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex, etc. you will want a cognitive behavorial therapist–you will be “doing” something each session to enhance your power over your addictin. If you have more long term problems from childhood, and who doesn’t? you will want talk therapy. It works. You gain rapport with your therapist. And if he or she doesn’t talk too much, you will be able to present your story, find out where your feelings come from and gain control over them. More next time.

WELCOME to my site and thanks for checking me out. I became a writer at the ripe old age of 13 when I won a short-story contest in the San Francisco Examiner which is now defunct. And I dabbled with writing most of my life but became serious about it when I got my psychology degree. Counterfeit Lottery is the first of three comedy/mysteries in a series, starring, da dummmm, Lily Handy, a 30-year-old struggling actress who ends up solving murder cases with her acting class skills. She uses the acting class to help her out, but she realizes that acting in all its forms can be a substitution for really living. Creating real characters, finding their motives and discovering their secrets can be much more rewarding when the characters are REAL and in trouble.

I’m a big John Grisham fan and when I read about 25 of his novels I thought, wow, I can do that?  Oh yeah?  Six long years later I finally finished my first comedy/mystery novel, COUNTERFEIT LOTTERY, learned a little bit about structure and got myself published  by a pretty good publisher, Timberlake Press.  My first book, ACT IT OUT, is a bestselling non-fiction book for adults sexually, physically and emotionally abused as children and it was published by New Harbinger Publications, Inc., in Oakland in 2002 then lasted nine long years in their catalogue.  When it had gone about as far as it could there, Praeclarus Press picked it up for a second edition and a YouTube presentation.  So writing is my life (along with my glorious husband) as well as private practice as a clinical and forensic psychologist.

In fact, the two professions go hand-in-hand and I would suggest to anyone going into the arts that they have a strong work profession first so that the many rejections and twists and turns artists get along the way won’t discourage them too much.  It’s always comforting to know you have something to fall back on.

Rejection, depression, hopelessness really get in the way of creativity, but I noticed when I actually sat down to write (even this little blog) I was energized and all kinds of thoughts and shares came to me.  It’s important to DO the action first, then the feelings and enlightenment will come.  Kind of like a particular way of acting.  Some like Lee Strasberg’s inner feelings first way of working, but others like Michael Chekov where you do the action and the feelings automatically come.  Hit a pillow hard for multiple times, and suddenly you’re furious.  Same thing here.  Start writing and suddenly you have lots of things to say.

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